When Marriage is Not All You Thought it Would Be: How We Saved Our Marriage Before it Even Began

Most of us have been there. Things get ugly in your marriage,* and you get that sick feeling in the pit of your stomach. You ask yourself, “Are we going to make it?”

Maybe you entered into marriage as we did, from the perspective of a covenant agreement before the Lord declaring, “There is no going back.” In which case, perhaps you’ve found yourself like I did mere months into our marriage on the bathroom floor crying out to the Lord asking, “What have I done? Is this how’s it’s always going to be?”

Not a pretty picture, huh? But a true one none the less. And one I believe is playing out in more bathroom floors in America than we want to believe!

It’s ok! No marriage is perfect because no two people are perfect, but two lives joined by God in holy union, now that is something worth fighting for!

As I’ve said before: It’s not always hunky-dory holiness around here, people! And the first few years of our marriage were no exception. In fact, Tim and I really didn’t hit a “honeymoon phase” until about year seven!

As we prepare to celebrate lucky 13 in just a few weeks we are far from perfect and still have plenty of ups and downs. But we know we are stronger for having gone through a tough beginning. Our marriage is a wonderful blessing that even on our rough days we know is still pretty great!

As with any trial, we would never have asked for it, but we wouldn’t trade the lessons and the growth for anything.

In this video (a Facebook live from 2017) Tim and I share how we saved our marriage before it even began. (Still can’t believe I got Tim to do a video with me!)

I hope we bring you encouragement, inspiration and a good dose of laughter!

“When you and I take a stand for our marriages, when we say that it’s going to be different, when we say that we are taking divorce off the table, generations are changed. One couple living out God’s word, serves as light to others. One couple choosing to not let anything separate them impacts everyone in their community and ultimately in the world.”

-Alisa DiLorenzo, Called to Love Day 1: More Than Just Words for Your Wedding Vows

At the time of this video I was blogging through the book Called to Love by Alisa DiLorenzo.

See all my posts in the “Called to Love” book review series…

*This post is not meant for those in abusive situations. This is for those feeling unhappy and disgruntled. If you are in an abusive relationship please get help immediately!